Boundaries

Where do I end and another begin? This is a question that came about for me as we were exploring boundaries in our training as fellow-therapists training to upgrade our own competencies. Each of us fellow-humans are explorers. What we explore depends on what we have as a 'flash-in-the-pan' moment in our cognition that piques us enough to go exploring further in our curiosity. Well, the above question has had me come home to what has me exist, or rather how do I know I exist? How do I know what I feel like without having to touch me? What I see is different from what another sees, so is there a boundary between what I see and another sees? What does it mean to see things through another's eyes? How do I know that it is 'anothers' eye that I see through? Similarly, how do I know which is something that I feel and which I know is actually another's feeling that I am picking up on with my sensory perceptibility. How do I know which is my thought and which another's? How do I know that I am not rote'ing anothers thought? How do I know what is original without having to verify with anything? How do I know which is mine and which is another's? Just as a material object is recognized (re-cognized) and thus I-dentified with my-ness (as in dent the object with my-ness so that that object becomes 'I'dentified!, Identity is basically values/traits/qualities/words that I stamp/dent with my-ness so that becomes my I-dentity!) do I know which is my feeling and which I empath of another? It is an ongoing inquiry, of course, but I sometimes have a sense of when I am encroached (as in encroachment of personal property) and that has me understand what does violating personal rights mean and know what is person-al and therefore where do I end and another begin.

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