DripplesDripples (drops n' ripples) attempts to invite a relook at our current definitions, at what we know and don't know, of our selves, at health and of life itself, and perhaps have a perspective that is new.
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I modify Rumi's words to "You are a glass of water from the Ocean AND you are the entire ocean in a glass of water." (You are just as much a tiny drop in the whole scheme of things as much as You are not JUST a drop. I say 'glass of water' because we have physical/material bodies whose nature is basically crystalline.) Wholesomeness us SUCH a beautiful word. The Vedas say, Poornamadah poornamidam poornaath poornamudachyathe, poornasya poornamaadhaayah poornamevaa vashishyathe (There is whole, here is whole, from whole arises whole, From/being whole, with whole as the basis (relied upon), whole ever subsists/remains) (Sanskrit is an ancient language with layers of meanings in each of its words, so translating it becomes a challenge but the translation above is a good enough approximation, I suppose) The Vedas delineated thusly a law cosmologically for anything created to subsist and then further for the created to create subsisting/lasting (read, that which stands the test of time) creations in the scheme of things. We are creations too of the Universe (born to a mother and father and part of some community/geography whether we like it or not) and so part and parcel of the Whole (on a Planet that is part of a solar system that is part of the Milky Way that is part of a bigger galaxy and so on). Any dissociation/breakage from wholesomeness (i.e., sum of many many Wholes) is 'trauma.' Who you are and what you create from being in existence depends on the degree of wholesomeness in you. (the subsistence of what you create in time again depends on the degree of wholesomeness by the above cosmological law of creation as delineated by the Vedas). {I say 'you' in the above sentence because the individual - I - when unwholesome, tends to hide conveniently behind the 'we' and not take responsibility in becoming the person that he/she/they can become in bringing into existence what You can bring into existence simply because of not waking up to the fact that there are no two You's!) The following is a list of the big headings under which we could check our relationship with wholesomeness. (Yes, as the image suggests, 'trauma' is like an oppressive force that squeezes our brains and bodies into inability to think clearly or behave appropriately). The more wholesome we get, better is the nature and quality of what we create (bring into existence and maintain) in the world. The nature of the relationship with the items in the following list would indicate health or trauma in that aspect of wholesomeness, or would at least help to gauge the degree of trauma (or degree of deviation from wholesomeness) in us (as an individual or the individual in a community):
- Relationship with God (or energy or force bigger and greater than you/I - the individual) - Relationship with Nature - Relationship with the land/geography/Country - Relationship with parents - Relationship with people/collective (Relationship with extended family other than parents is a separate subheading under this. This can be further subheaded with relationship with a specific person) - Relationship with things (eg. phone, chair, the rock in the garden, a paper, etc. - nonliving things) - Relationship with life - Relationship with Death (and, consequently, with living) - Relationship with ones body - Relationship with oneself - Relationship with purpose How do we know that there may be a dissociation? Personal Journey through life. If you dont have one, there are several levels of trauma already (because Nature is simply ecological; nothing without a purpose exists, especially if it has life, which you and I have because of which we are countable amongst the living). If you already know your Journey and are buffed every now and then, you may be buffed by the above checkable list. Identify the detractor and you know what takes you out of your Journey. (If you don't have a personal journey, just go through the above list and as you work out the 'trauma' in your relationship with the above items, you are more likely than not to come up with at least one good purpose for existence in the fulfilling of which you are amongst the living and then you would have identified your Personal Journey. I will post further in the category called Finding your Path on this Blog site to further delineate/support you in identifying your path.) There would be bumpers every now and then on the Journey, and they are there because sometimes if the necessary tools are not already learnt in maneuvering through the Journey, the Journey simply would need to teach you those tools because these tools would be essential further on too. If you already had it, you would not be delayed because you would simply be using them. What the above list helps in is identifying the already existing unwholesomeness due to which learning the required tools in your Journey becomes/has been difficult. You could keep bumping up against the same challenges until the 'trauma' in this check-list areas are healed and then you can sail smoother. Your Journey would still have what it takes to complete it but the chances of the Journey just being a dream versus a reality increases tremendously. Self-actualization is not really the end of the story; it is the beginning of having 'real'ized a possible and the Journey now is in maintaining the healthy existence of this new New. If it is not already there in the world, your Journey is still in possibility/work-in-progress stage. When we think/perceive a threat or unfriendliness by that whose relationship (with the item in the list) we are examining, something that bound us in a relationship got sour with reactive behaviors that override reason and create avoidant behaviors, and that is 'trauma.' Experts would perhaps argue that Trauma (with a big T) is severe form of breakage from wholesomeness, but some foundation for it could be seen in the less severe versions. 'Trauma' is nevertheless painful, no matter what the degree. It affects ones well-being emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, physically, and affects ones outlook at life and what one thinks is possible and/or does in the lifespan that one does have. How to identify a trauma: I will attempt to help identify trauma with an example from the list above (Relationship with people/collective). The same method can be used to check with other items from the list. Sift through the knowledge content of what you know about the topic. If there is something against which you react/get triggered by (read, lose your equilibrium), you have identified a trauma. If the breakage from wholesomeness is with a person with whom unfriendliness or homogeneity is missing (read, lose your equilibrium or sense of happiness), there is trauma. The reason for the trauma could be a 'trauma' in the other but a reactivity from us (read, lose your equilibrium) is what would tell if at least part of the reason is a 'trauma' in us. Can we BE in the presence of what we assess the nature of relationship with (or of items from the list). If a reactivity in the individual me is identified, there are many ways to heal the trauma, including but not limited to counseling, working with a therapist, healthcare practices, or maybe even sitting with the uncomfortable for a tete-a-tete. Every trauma can be healed. Everything that is broken can be fixed. Every problem has a solution and can be solved if you have the will to find it and solve it. If you don't think so, there is a trauma that is waiting to be healed! If we can not only be in the presence of but also affect an effect that makes things better for the 'other' ('God'/nature/geography/people/self/purpose that we check nature of relationship with), then there is a great amount of health in us (as against trauma). Everything that is broken can be repaired because wholesomeness is always there to be checked and connected with, because we ARE a part of a community/geography/Planet/solar system and so on. We simply are part of a Whole, so any breakage ('trauma') from the connectedness is just a matter of effort and time invested in repairing the breakage from wholesomeness. It simply IS. I am available for support if you or people you care about are facing a difficulty in getting back to Whole or some disconnection persists. My work is getting things back to whole. Part of my work is 'trauma' healing, which basically means putting things back together in the best possible way, in the most organic way possible, and the other part of my work is enabling the Journeyer (whether or not they know their Journey) in getting to be their best possible self, so unless it is Great Health, the work is not done yet, and I am available to support through the entire process in whatsoever manner I can.
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It is getting back to be ones original self. Not just getting back on feet, on some feet and carrying on however though that is also resilience in being able to get up and go. It may come to be that eventually one would get back to ones original feet but the real juice is in being able to do that soon after )being knocked out of it by whatsoever circumstances, for example), in a flash of a second if you may. What is original self? It is who one is really. It is the person within all the different personas and identities assumed, which are much like clothes worn for the day. In the end of the day, those clothes are taken off to don more comfortable not-really-to-impress clothes, and even within all of these clothes is the real naked person who does not change skin at will whenever, who experiences life through the different circumstances and situations and who has a history (more like 'his' or 'her' story which comprises of his/her ancestry, cultural background, upbringing and circumstances thereof, influences through schools and neighbourhood, whose likes and dislikes have been shaped through various experiences of living). Within even that person is a self which is like the soul of the person who makes choices, who has the ability to change 'channels' by choosing differently (like changing a TV channel by clicking a different button on the remote control, and that change is a change of choice), who has an energy or frequency all of the person's own. It is when the thoughts are not borrowed or a replica of someone else's. It is original. What comes into being from this original self may never have come into existence before. This self is authentic, second to no one else. It is the first person after which comes even parents who are the first relatives after birth with the mother being the first relationship from having a heartbeat the first time in the womb. The self of a person is related to this woman by the relationship named mother. The self of a person is a consciousness who then forms relationships in this space and time called this world. True resilience is in being and coming back to this original self in a flash of a second. It is when the person truly becomes an in-dividual, the original self as an entity of existence - a phenomenon. Do not be taken aback by the rock-like music and bright colors. Watch the video until the end to see what I am telling you. There is a story being told here and a message for you. What is trauma? Anything that has one dissociate from life the way it is, in response to an incident, after which life is never the same again. Of course, life can never be the same again with a happy incident, but "trauma" is when life is never the pleasant way it used to be again.
In the movie, Frozen, Elsa has had to defend herself from the environment she was in by offense (she had to create an ice fortress to ward off from the hurters/judgers. She had to shut off her emotions so she could no longer feel, so she could no longer feel the pain. She had immense power but she could not control her power when she needed to (to save her sister Anna's life from the impact of Elsa's own action...the act of directing her icy wrath on Anna when Elsa wanted no more of Anna's attention). It was only love that could thaw the ice and bring the emotion required to melt the icy statue that Anna was getting frozen into. It is only love that could help Elsa control her power, and not be a force of destruction. It is with love that she could breathe, heal, love and live again amidst people. People either Fight, Flight, or Freeze to deal with life's situations. When you dont come out of Freeze or are stuck in a perpetual Freeze state (emotionally usually, but could also be physically or intellectually or spiritually) that life is never the pleasant way it used to be again, and then you have to work to 'be strong' in order to deal with the 'bitch called life' (the pleasant, smooth, flowy life becomes a 'bitch' when life is not pleasant anymore and you have to deal with life rather than live life, because something happened and life was never the pleasant way it used to be). If any of this resonates with you, time to give me a call or message me on the Contact page. It is time to heal, breathe, love and live again. We have in some ways desensitized our ability to feel and that only translates further in our inability to empathize, which is why there is so much suffering happening in the world and the war/accident reports in newspapers are now strategized/recommended to be not read but to instead move to sports and other better news so you can feel healthy, and maybe in time would feel healthy enough to then be able to look at the accident and war pages. I do not know if the latter has been in the agenda but there does seem to be reasons for not looking at suffering, perhaps a continuation of a trend of not looking at your own suffering but rather to only be in the good places. The suffering is calling out for attention. If you dont listen to it, it will have to scream it out so it gets some attention; if that does not work, violence is resorted to so it gets some attention or it will HAVE your attention. The extremists, I think, are doing just that. Pay attention to the avoided parts of yourself. It is easier when it is seeking attention than when it forces you to pay attention. A little care does go a long way. Literally.
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AuthorMy name is Bitha Sadanandan. I am a person behind MITI World but this blog is my 'look what I found' pin-up kind of wall developed for a purpose mentioned in the Blog Header. Some things just need to be said, even if an idea only you are crazy enough to have! {Volcanoes are the reason why I voice my thoughts here; a healthy steam-engine keeps the environment life-sustainable.} Categories
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