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Fate is an idea that is usually spoken about as something that is endured/suffered/handed down/written by an unknown or invisible God in a person's lifeline that a person can do nothing about. It is even regarded as a constant in each person's life. Rarely is it seen as a necessity and as a baseline in and from which to build life.
What is Fate really? It is all of that which we are born into, born from and born with, and within which we live life from. It is not fixed and can change depending on choices and actions taken. The more we are in agreement with our individual Fate and the Fate of others as it is and as it is not, we would be in agreement with life as is and as it is not. We would, then, begin to take our place in the scheme of things and it is only then that we begin to see clearer the reason and purpose of our existence as an individual in the crowd.
We are where we need to be. Each of us. Our current circumstances, the people in our lives, the trials and tribulations that are there is exactly what we need to face up to what we have always been resisting. It is only when we face up to that that we can work with the components of what we could not face up to earlier, untangle the knots that kept us from moving with ease and stopped the flow of life in whatsoever manner, and emerge better, stronger and wiser for the experience. It is much like a seed that needs the kind of soil and whatnots there is to push against, push through and become the plant/tree that it has within it to become. Wishing it was somewhere else does not change the fact that it is where it is and it is from where it is that it can, if there is any chance at all for it to become anything, become it. Somehow, anyhow, for whatsoever reason we were born where we were born, to the parents, to and in the circumstances we were born in, having to deal with whatsoever there is in the present reality to exist/survive/learn to live in and then write our own stories and become who we could be. "We are not a seed in a forest but the entire forest in a seed."
Soul-satisfaction comes from doing the right thing; the degree of satisfaction and happyness (as in the movie, The Pursuit of Happyness) increases when doing the right thing by all counts and in all spheres of existence. I cannot really write on a topic of Fate without mentioning Karma and Dharma, which are words from the Vedic school of philosophy on how to maneuver through our individual Fate in moving through life and living it. Each one of us have our own Dharma (or a set of right-things-to-do afforded by the set of choices available within the realm of what a person is born into and born with) as a son/daughter, employee, neighbor, etc., roles that each one of us play in our lifetime. There is also a Dharma by our own selves as an individual - the right-thing-to-do by our own selves in resonance with our soul/higher self - failing which we would have lived a sacrificial life from having stepped beyond what is right by our own soul/higher self. Then, it is a case much like attempting to do anything when there is simply no central integrity/supporting structure/order by which to do the right thing and so the actions taken would have questionable benefit/outcome in due course of time and could even be destructive to the individual/group. Dharma thus is a sense of rightness in sync with an Implicate Order (which in an individual would be resonant with ones conscience) that spans through the entire Universe, and Karma is the action a person does corresponding with this Implicate Order/Conscience (or not) and consequences therefrom. So a person who does dyssyncronised with this Order gets to reap the consequences of what they sow as actions and so does a person who does in sync with this Order of right-action.
Each person has his/her own life and Fate BECAUSE each person has a heartbeat that is that person's alone. One person cannot heartbeat for another and similarly, even if living under the same roof, each person has his/her own life of which the other people are part of; no one can live a life FOR another or change it for another, like it or not. What each person has is a set of choices afforded by each person's Fate (that which they are born into, born with within which is available the set of choices) and when someone attempts to help, a person can accept it or not depending on their Fate. Does that mean Fate cannot change? Certainly not. Fate is not a thing that is fixed. As a person's Karma/actions taken in accordance with their Dharma in resonance with the Implicate Order clears preexisting blocks/stops/discomforts/disharmonies, Fate consequently changes and correspondingly Destiny. People come and go out of each others' lives because their part in each others' stories are over. They came because it was part of their Fate to meet and left because in the large scheme of things they were not meant to be forever, say. We each gotta live our own lives BECAUSE we each have our own Fate and Destiny. You/I are the center of our own individual lives (heroes and heroines of our own lives really) and what kind of life a person lives depends on which character a person thinks they play in life. Some are really living it like the heroes and heroines of their lives, some have adopted the role of a villain or the victim/damsel in distress and depending on the character they think they have in life, the quality of life is consistent with that. How soon we get to see this picture and then take control of our individual responsibility over our own lives, instead of blaming someone/something/circumstances for what is working or not working in our lives, and what happens from seeing this sooner or later is Destiny - what we turn out to be and have.
We get to become our highest self-potential (or not) by how we move through what we are born to and born with. If we resist or hold back or over do or compromise, much like a recipe in which the ingredients are imbalanced, the life we get to live consequently has the corresponding quality - compromised and suboptimal. Our bodies are a topography of the lives we live. When we compromise on any of the 'Dharmas' that is our individual lot, our bodies show consequent compromise in health as diseases because there is a knowing-self within us who really knows the truth. Because the person you/I are within our bodies (where the person within is like the software and our bodies are the hardware) knows the truth and that knowing is encompassed within the tissues and composition of our body and in our conscience (which is where the 'knowing' resides), in our knowing is health, which when compromised/lied to/hid from, diseases ensue manifested in our conscious/subconscious/unconscious mind-body-emotion-intellect-spirit. When we restore/bring back and maintain our own set of Dharmas as it needs to be, health gets restored and we are able to function again and maintain our lives the way it needs to be and make it better. Health is the degree to which we can maintain a healthy life and the quality of life gets better correspondingly.
"We are not a seed in a forest but the entire forest in a seed." An unborn paradigm of the Universe is within each one of us. What is the proof of what I say? Each person is born to a separate mother; we dont have assembly lines of same people born in batches. Even twins are born at different times and biologically have occupied different time and space coordinates, which is why they have two bodies. Each is a seed from which arises 'a' kind of human being and just like the date keeps changing every day and no two dates are the same on a calender, no two people are the same. And then, living the individual's own life is the individual's Fate. How well and how fast a person gets to 'self-actualize' (meaning, bring forth the paradigm that only the life that is in a person can bring forth) after a person has this realization (popularly called as self-realization) depends on how fast a person gets this idea really well and live life with this realization.
Dripples (drops n' ripples) attempts to invite a relook at our current definitions, what we know and don't know, of our selves, at health and of life itself, and perhaps have a perspective that is new.