There is a lil one inside of us, actually several lil ones if a person is constantly engaged in doing unfamiliar or new activities - a new lil one is born in our psyche in the process of doing the new activity who finds ways to maneuver through the new activity/inquiry, and each of these new ones, just like children we see around us, grow in their own time depending on how much the activity has been continued to be engaged in and the child grows up to be a fully grown adult adept at that activity. That is how we unconsciously become more skilled if we continuously spend time engaged in an activity of interest, and over time our 'expertise' in these activities join up with our existing expertise and form interesting combinations of skills hitherto far unthinkable, and that is how we become cameleonic (who says that is only a bad trait?!) and able to adapt with changing challenges - the ability, of course, depending on what you have spent time in developing routinely.
Inner child?! How do we know there is an 'inner child' within? Butterflies in the stomach, anxiety of any kind that is either always there or comes about at different points of time during the day or at specific instances of experience through life, overwhelm of any kind about anything, 'I don't know what to do' panic, pure innocent glee about anything, 'I feel like I want a cuddle,' 'I wish I had someone to rely on or hold onto,' curiosity (that is a pure lil one trait; people die or get old if curiosity is not a part of their constitution!) - if you have any of these above symptoms, you have a lil one inside you that definitely needs and deserves to be taken care of. Actually, you should be concerned if you don't have one or more of these symptoms because these symptoms are a great sign that you are alive and are playing the game of life. If you don't have any of these above-said symptoms, you should definitely do an unfamiliar activity or take up an activity that you have never done before (updated on 3-June-17: Maybe learn a new language or learn a musical instrument or try growing a plant in a pot or learn to cook or try rock-climbing!), and you can be sure to get back into the zone of living (as against merely surviving) with at least some of the zing/excitement of living back, and the zeal of living is soon on its heel (I bet on this)...and what's more, your side of the lawn would get greener again (I bet on this one too!).
The idea is not mine originally. It is the idea of Pamela Levin who takes special interest in Transactional Analysis and published the idea of Cycles of Development. The following images are excerpts from her work as interpreted by other psychotherapists.
So, how do we take care of these lil ones within us? Just like any baby would be. They love mushy food, fine gooey textured, not too spicey. It could be a nice smoothie or plain pongal or khichdi or curd rice or that bucket of icecream when things get a little too much to handle (this one is a popular with homemakers or had-it-up-to-the-neck mothers, but you need to make sure you have a wide selection of comfort-foods and not just icecream or we are talking about putting on weight, and putting on weight is a popular stressor, so make sure icecream is NOT your only comfort-food), or maybe dal with rice and curd nicely mashed (that's MY comfort food). Oh! Your favourite comfort-food is most likely to be inner-baby comforting food, because what gets comforted is that aspect of us that has us feel anxious and clamped up when faced with unknowns and daunting whatevers out there in the world. You could do one or all of the following:
1. Mushy, gooey food. Smoothies, curd rice, pongal, khichdi, dal curry and rice with curd, icecream, porridge, any of your favorite comfort-foods; just make sure you have more than one comfort-food to fall back on when the going gets a bit choppy. Better still, include one of the inner-child care food as part of your daily eating habit so you are taking care of your inner-child every day. You are bound to be surprised at how much the quality of your life would enhance.
2. Placing one palm of either hand on the navel (yes, your belly button) like you would place a hand on your pet puppy and feel it breathing, i.e. place a palm gently, kindly, mindfully on your belly button and feel the warmth of your abdomen as you breathe; this helps a lot in calming the anxious/flustered/overwhelmed feeling. A lott of the times, it also helps regulate constipation and/or loose motion (try it!).
3. A nice warm oil massage. Ayurveda recommends the practice of Abhyangam, which is self-oil massage with sesame oil followed by warm water bath (don't require soap after) with all joints and crevices nicely massaged. Try it. Your skin is most likely to feel plump and well taken care of and your emotional state a kinda fullness that can be akin to 'rich' and comfortable. The term 'comfortable in your skin' has a literal meaning with this practice. I suspect the phrase 'elbow grease' (as in, work that pays for elbow grease) must have some origin in a practice such as a massage.
That's it for now. Will add to this post as new inspiration floods in richer content. Until then, take care of your inner-child. I dare say, that is quite enough to suffice having taken care of yourself for our inner-child (or children) are our most vulnerable parts of us that we don't dare reveal to another and perhaps the only parts of us that actually gets hurt or saddened or happy. Our inner-child is very close to our true selves - the part that we won't easily expose to another but which needs our greatest care for it is our selves; it is our self, or at least leads us to our Self.
Life is movement. Where there is no movement, there is a compromise in the quality of life. This is observable in several aspects of everyday life. When there is stagnation of money, material comfort and expansion gets compromised. When there is no physical movement, health gets compromised due to lack of movement. The body is designed to move. There is movement in the body all the time - the heart beats (and God help if it stops!), respiration is rhythmic and relatively constant depending on rate of activity but always present and moving. Blood is constantly moving through the arteries, capillaries and veins. If there is stagnation, there are problems. Bones and muscles are designed to aid in movement. They would calcify or sclerose or atrophy if there is no movement.
Life tends to balance, harmonize and evolve given the right environment and adequate resources. If there is compromise in the space, safety and resources, there is compromise in the natural tendency of life to move towards better balance, harmony and evolution, and there would consequently be compromise in the quality of life. Period.
Breath is expansion and contraction, which is basically movement. Muscles contract and relax, which is basically what the breath does. The breath supports movement and movement supports breath. What breathes is alive. So, move and breathe well to live well.
I am a body of water. I became a human being from having moved through evolution from a unicellular organism in the primitive ocean of early Earth to my current land-based existence in various conditions of solid earth. Far from the water bodies sometimes, I always come to and need some form of water to sustain, because each of the cells in my body are almost 70% water and needs periodic replenishment to continue to be alive. I am, hence, still much like the original unicellular organism; just hardened on the outside. Even though my human form has come to be from having evolved through several other life forms, I was born to a mother at a point in time, and my birth at this point in time is new - a fresh "piece" of consciousness - a droplet of Consciousness born into the ocean of consciousness.
My waters get muddied from being through several experiences of living. Pleasant experiences render a flavor to my waters and so does unpleasant experiences. When faced with challenges, I engage with all the resources I have to get through the challenge I face, and become better than what I was previously or get precipitated with more particles "muddying" my waters some more.
My waters clarify when I get in touch with my original waters, my tissues re-membering its content quality reminiscent of the droplet of Consciousness that I am as I was conceived fresh, untainted by the reality of current circumstances. As I remember more, I remember the original primordial waters of Consciousness from which came forth all that there is. In the lightness of my waters from having remembered my original waters, the residues and particles precipitated from my various experiences of living can just be and in time would settle to the bottom of my water body in the waters still from the remembrance, which in time would get transmutated or recycled into the material with which All That There Is is made, and I can breathe my breath of life and be born again.
Flow, stuccato, chaotic, lyrical and stillness; the 5-rhythm dance as expounded by Gabrielle Roth is a gentle, self-exploratory but most importantly a way to be and become by the explorer's own efforts through dance, and anybody can dance. If you dont think you can dance, then the 5-rhythm exploration through movement is just the way to begin. Do watch until the end before beginning practice :-)
It is getting back to be ones original self. Not just getting back on feet, on some feet and carrying on however though that is also resilience in being able to get up and go. It may come to be that eventually one would get back to ones original feet but the real juice is in being able to do that soon after )being knocked out of it by whatsoever circumstances, for example), in a flash of a second if you may.
What is original self? It is who one is really. It is the person within all the different personas and identities assumed, which are much like clothes worn for the day. In the end of the day, those clothes are taken off to don more comfortable not-really-to-impress clothes, and even within all of these clothes is the real naked person who does not change skin at will whenever, who experiences life through the different circumstances and situations and who has a history (more like 'his' or 'her' story which comprises of his/her ancestry, cultural background, upbringing and circumstances thereof, influences through schools and neighbourhood, whose likes and dislikes have been shaped through various experiences of living). Within even that person is a self which is like the soul of the person who makes choices, who has the ability to change 'channels' by choosing differently (like changing a TV channel by clicking a different button on the remote control, and that change is a change of choice), who has an energy or frequency all of the person's own. It is when the thoughts are not borrowed or a replica of someone else's. It is original. What comes into being from this original self may never have come into existence before. This self is authentic, second to no one else. It is the first person after which comes even parents who are the first relatives after birth with the mother being the first relationship from having a heartbeat the first time in the womb. The self of a person is related to this woman by the relationship named mother. The self of a person is a consciousness who then forms relationships in this space and time called this world. True resilience is in being and coming back to this original self in a flash of a second. It is when the person truly becomes an in-dividual, the original self as an entity of existence - a phenomenon.
Food is anything that can be consumed. It could be material. It could be information. It could be energy. It could be space. It can be consumed and it can be imbibed. What you consume or imbibe becomes you. You are what you food. You are food. You are part of the food chain, literally and figuratively. What kind of food you are depends on what you pay attention to. What you pay attention to becomes food for thought, whether you like it or not. Pay attention to what you pay attention to and you know what is that you consume, and what becomes of it. You become the food you consume and imbibe.
As clichéd as it may sound, there really are two aspects of us that are poles of each other - lets call them the archetypal 2 wolves (honouring the ancestors whosoever introduced the idea of the wolves to the masses). What we eat feeds either the healthy wolf or the unhealthy wolf (I degress from tradition here - they are not the good and the bad wolves).
When we eat our veggies and drink our milk and honey, the healthy wolf gets stronger and has us choose healthy constructive lifestyles and healthy quality of life than we would have asked for. When we feed us a lot of coke, fried potatoes, more meat than our body needs, and cigarette and alcohol, the unhealthy wolf is happy and gets us into more trouble than we would have asked for.
Bon appetit !
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